The Possession

We have all been through a break-up where we thought about the other person for a while and we all have "crazy" thoughts after a break-up.  Even though this woman did the breaking-up, she hated seeing her ex with someone else.  On p. 48 she talks about how she wanted her ex to forget about the other woman and how she wants to hurt him.  I can totally relate to her thoughts.  It is difficult to see an ex happily in a relationship while you are alone.  Regardless of whether you break up with your partner or vice versa, it is equally painful to have someone who was such a part of your life suddenly not be there.  The author knows that she is "obsessed" and does try to stop herself from thinking about the other woman.  She only allows herself to think about it at night almost as a reward for not thinking about her during the day.  The woman is so upset and angry she wants to shoot the woman and screan bitch at her, but who is she really angry with.

I also related to the author when she talks about how her ex said he was just thinking of her, she hears that he wasn't thinking of her the rest of the time.  When you want something so badly, you hear what you want to hear.  She gets herself more upset by manipulating what he said into what she imagined he meant.  She feels the need to "decode" what he says. 

At the end the author realizes that she needs to move on and that the situation is bad for her.  She realizes that she can stop her possession herself, that it is up to her.  I give her credit for realizing that she needed to move on, some people never do. 

Even though that book gives the impression that she is obsessed with the new girlfriend, I feel she is obsessed with her ex's new relationship.  The author already knows what she needs to about her ex, so when she is trying to find out about the other woman, she is also finding out about her ex - where he might be, what he might be doing, etc.