I had never thought about emotions and love in such a "clinical" way before, but yet it made sense. I think Sternberg's three components of love all have equal importance and validity. I feel that to be in a relationship one must be able to give all three components to their partner, or the "triangle" will fall apart. As much as I agree with Sternberg, I still found it odd to read about love in such a way - almost as if there is a formula. I believe there are different classifications of love and I think Sternberg does a good job of describing them. I can honestly say that I have feelings for an ex-boyfriend of mine, but I am not in love with him. I haven't seen him in a while and I am now married with a child, but if I passed him on the street today I would probably feel flushed and my heart rate would go up. I can say that I love him and I wish him well, but I don't have intimacy feelings for him. I think my feelings presently are just based on fond memories of the past.
One would think that love should be easy but as we all know from our own experiences and from Sternberg's chapter, it is the opposite. Love can be easy, but it can also be complicated, painful and stressful.
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