I had never heard the term limerence before reading this chapter, but once reading about it I have certainly experienced it. I totally understood the story of the girl on page 21 who felt like nothing could bring her down - whatever happened would be wonderful. I remember meeting my husband and feeling the same way for a while. Just being with him - no matter what we did - was great - I even enjoyed football and would watch it all day on Sunday with him. My friends and I call this the honeymoon period - total bliss.
I found the perception of the limerent object interesting, the idea of love is blind it very true, I am have experience it and many of my friends have too. It is easier to see someone else go through this than yourself, I hadn't seen it until the relationship ended. I think that in the beginning you want so much for the other person to be "the one" that you tend to just see the positive and the negative doesn't affect your thoughts of the future with this person. I believe this is a form of idealization rather than crystallization (not sure).
Most people say "they just knew" rather than "I feel limerence". I feel that it is an emotion or feeling that is very difficult to explain and I feel that the author did a great job at doing so. I wouldn't say that it is something that is obsessive but it certainly is intrusive and can be persistent. It is not unwanted, even if you would like to be able to concentrate on something important at work, you like daydreaming about the LO.
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