Davis, Chapter 6, Obsessive Sex and Love

I think obsessive sex is dependent on what one perceives as obsessive.  One person may think that having sex five times a month is considered often, while another may consider five times a week often.  Everyone has a different idea of what sex means to them so while one may think it is obsessive to have sex with many partners, another may think it is obsessive to only have sex with one person (in terms of being obsessed with that person).  Davis talks about where it is you draw the line between normal and abnormal sex - in the past it seems as though people depended on manuals to tell them what was normal and abnormal - rather than what they really wanted and thought was normal themselves. 

When I think of people in the late 1800's and early 1900's I think of them as being rather prude, or mabey not as openminded about sex as people are today.  In reading about the early thoughts of sexuality, even the first use of the word, I am amazaed at how much has changed in the past one hundred and twenty years.  The impression in the past appears to be that sex made a good marriage, was to be between a man and a woman, and about the other person rather than yourself (mostly for females). We certainly have come a long way. 

I could care less about other people's sex life, I agree with the National Sex Forum who states "as long as people konw what they are doing, feel good about it, and don't harm others, anything goes."  I don't think anyone should judge what another does or who they do it with.  I believe sex is tied into our emotions because it is such a personal act so it is hard for me to view it in a scientific sense.  That being said, I do appreciate research and studies that are done in regard to sexuality.  If not for these it would be more difficult to gadge people who have sexual addictions, are codependent or be aware of complexes such as the Casanova Complex.  If research wasn't done we might have more stalkers on the loose, people are able to get help now.  It might be a good thing that researching sexuality is a new obsesession.